Honesty and Dishonesty: Beyond the surface
The concepts of honesty and dishonesty, fidelity and infidelity, often evoke strong reactions from people, shaped by moral, cultural, and societal conditioning. These binaries dominate much of human interaction, creating judgments about what is right and wrong, what is ethical and unethical. However, when we delve deeper into these ideas, we begin to see that these distinctions are part of a broader illusion of duality—a construct that humanity has built over millennia to navigate the complexities of life.
The very act of labeling actions as “honest” or “dishonest,” “faithful” or “unfaithful” stems from a worldview that is bound by dualistic thinking. In such a worldview, life is divided into opposites—good and bad, right and wrong, true and false. Yet, as we explore the nature of consciousness and presence, it becomes clear that these dichotomies are not fixed, but rather fluid, shaped by the limited perceptions of the human mind.
At the heart of this inquiry lies the question: what happens when one operates with complete presence, in a state of being where the mind is free from the constructs of past and future, of moral judgments, and of conditioned responses? In such a state, does the very notion of honesty and dishonesty, fidelity and infidelity, dissolve? Can we transcend the dualities that dominate our understanding of reality? And if so, what does that reveal about the nature of the “real world” we think we live in?
In this exploration, we will dive deep into these questions, dissecting the nature of honesty, dishonesty, fidelity, and infidelity, and ultimately aiming to dissolve the myths and illusions that surround them.
From an early age, we are taught that honesty is a virtue, a moral standard by which we should live. To be honest is to tell the truth, to be transparent, and to act in alignment with what is considered ethical. Dishonesty, on the other hand, is seen as a vice—deceiving, hiding the truth, or acting in ways that betray trust. Society has built intricate structures around these concepts, embedding them in legal systems, educational frameworks, and interpersonal relationships.
However, what we often fail to recognize is that both honesty and dishonesty are constructed within the realm of thought. They are ideas that arise from the human mind, shaped by cultural and historical contexts. What may be considered honest in one culture could be viewed as dishonest in another. For instance, in some cultures, withholding certain information is seen as a way to protect others, while in other societies, it may be seen as deceit. Thus, honesty and dishonesty are not objective truths; they are relative concepts that depend on context, perception, and belief systems. This recognition opens the door to questioning the very foundations of these moral judgments.
Honesty and dishonesty, as we commonly understand them, are rooted in dualistic thinking—the division of the world into opposites. Duality, in this sense, is a mental construct that allows us to navigate the complexities of life. It simplifies the world into categories of right and wrong, true and false, and gives us a sense of control over the moral and ethical landscape we inhabit.
But this division is inherently limiting. It creates conflict, both internally and externally, because it forces us to align with one side of the dichotomy and reject the other. When we view honesty and dishonesty as fixed opposites, we become trapped in a cycle of judgment, always measuring ourselves and others against these standards.
In relationships, fidelity is often equated with loyalty, faithfulness, and commitment. To be faithful is to remain true to one’s partner, to honor the bond of trust that has been established. Infidelity, by contrast, is seen as a betrayal—a breaking of that trust, a violation of the commitment made. These concepts are deeply ingrained in societal norms and expectations, particularly in romantic and marital relationships.
However, like honesty and dishonesty, fidelity and infidelity are also socially constructed. The very notion of what it means to be faithful or unfaithful varies across cultures and historical periods. In some societies, monogamy is seen as the ultimate expression of fidelity, while in others, polygamy or open relationships are accepted norms. The rules that govern fidelity are not universal; they are shaped by cultural, religious, and personal beliefs.
At the heart of fidelity and infidelity lies the idea of ownership—ownership of another person’s body, mind, and emotions. When we commit to a relationship, particularly in the context of marriage or long-term partnership, there is often an implicit expectation that we “own” each other in some way. This ownership manifests in the form of expectations about exclusivity, loyalty, and the boundaries of the relationship.
But this notion of ownership is illusory. No one can truly own another person, and attempting to do so creates a sense of possessiveness that is rooted in fear and insecurity. Fidelity, when seen through the lens of ownership, becomes a way of controlling the other person, of ensuring that they remain within the boundaries we have set for them.
True love is not possessive or conditional. When we love someone, we do not seek to control them or to bind them to our expectations. Instead, we allow them the freedom to be who they are, without judgment or restriction. This kind of love transcends the dualities of fidelity and infidelity because it is not based on ownership or attachment.
Infidelity, when it occurs, is often seen as the ultimate betrayal. It brings up feelings of hurt, anger, and rejection. But from a deeper perspective, infidelity can be understood as a mirror—an opportunity to examine the underlying dynamics of the relationship and the expectations that have been placed on it.
When someone is unfaithful, it is not necessarily a reflection of their character or moral standing. Rather, it can be a reflection of the unmet needs and desires that exist within the relationship. These unmet needs may be emotional, physical, or psychological, and they often stem from a lack of true connection or understanding between partners. Infidelity, in this sense, is not the cause of the problem but a symptom of deeper issues that have been ignored or suppressed. It forces us to confront the illusions we have built around relationships—the illusion of ownership, the illusion of permanence, and the illusion of control.
To operate with 100% presence in the moment is to be fully aware, fully engaged, and fully alive in the here and now. It means to live without the interference of past conditioning or future projections, to see reality as it is, without the filters of judgment, expectation, or attachment. Presence is the state of pure awareness, where the mind is not divided into opposites, and the self is not fragmented by thought. When we are truly present, the concepts of honesty and dishonesty, fidelity and infidelity, dissolve. In the state of presence, there is no division between right and wrong, true and false, because these are constructs of the mind. Presence transcends duality and brings us into direct contact with reality as it is—without the distortions of thought or emotion.
In the state of presence, honesty and dishonesty lose their meaning. Honesty is often defined as telling the truth, but what is truth? Truth, in its most profound sense, is not a fixed concept; it is fluid, dynamic, and constantly changing. When we are present, we do not cling to fixed ideas of truth or falsehood; we simply respond to the reality of the moment. Dishonesty, in this sense, is not about lying or deceiving others. It is about being out of alignment with the present moment—about acting from a place of conditioning, fear, or attachment, rather than from a place of awareness. When we are fully present, there is no need for dishonesty because we are in harmony with the flow of life. We do not need to manipulate or control the situation; we simply respond with clarity and integrity.
The concept of fidelity, too, dissolves when one operates in the present moment with full awareness. Fidelity, in its conventional sense, is often tied to promises, contracts, and the expectation of a continuous future. In relationships, it becomes a pledge to behave in certain ways over time, to stay within defined boundaries, and to remain “true” to another person. But these pledges are built upon mental constructs and future projections—on an imagined continuity that is bound by time and expectation.
When one is fully present, these future projections lose their weight, and fidelity is no longer about promises made for tomorrow but about the authenticity of being in relationship here and now. In presence, fidelity is not something forced or negotiated, but an expression of truth in the moment. One cannot be unfaithful in presence because one is not operating from a divided mind that clings to past commitments or fears future betrayals. Instead, there is simply an unfolding of truth as it is, unconditioned by the past and unconcerned with future outcomes.
Infidelity, often seen as the antithesis of fidelity, also loses its traditional meaning when approached from a place of presence. Infidelity typically arises from dissatisfaction, a feeling that something is lacking in the current relationship or situation. This dissatisfaction propels one to seek fulfillment elsewhere, outside the bounds of the established relationship. But what is at the root of this dissatisfaction? Often, it is the mind’s attachment to desires, projections, and unexamined needs that fuel the urge to look beyond the present relationship. In presence, there is no room for such projections. The mind, when it is fully attuned to the present, does not dwell on what is lacking or seek fulfillment outside of what is unfolding in the here and now. When one is present with a partner or in any relationship, the relationship is no longer bound by the rigid labels of fidelity and infidelity. There is simply a connection, a flow of being, that is not controlled by societal norms or personal insecurities. In this way, presence dissolves the very constructs that give rise to infidelity, not by imposing rules or boundaries, but by making them irrelevant.
Needs – Fulfilment or imaginary?
At its core, ‘need’ represents a perceived lack within our lives. Whether it’s a need for something material like food or shelter, or something psychological such as love or acceptance, every need suggests that something essential is missing. Desire, according to Buddhist philosophy, leads to suffering because it perpetuates a state of lacking and grasping. When needs arise, they disturb our peace by suggesting that our current state is insufficient.
When a need is fulfilled, it confirms its existence as something genuine. For example, the need for nourishment is affirmed as real when eating relieves the pangs of hunger. Here, the need aligns with a fundamental requirement for survival. Conversely, if a need fades away without being fulfilled, one might argue it was never a true need but rather a transient desire. This observation is particularly relevant in the context of emotional or psychological needs, where distinguishing between deep-seated necessities and superficial wants becomes complex.
The paradox lies in the dual nature of needs as both real and illusory. On one hand, certain needs are indisputably real, as their fulfillment directly pertains to survival and well-being. On the other, many needs, when scrutinized, reveal themselves as constructs of the mind, shaped by societal, cultural, and personal expectations and conditioning. Stoic philosophy, for instance, teaches the value of distinguishing between what we can control and what we cannot, urging a detachment from external desires and an acceptance of what is. This detachment is not about suppression of need but rather a profound understanding of the ephemerality of external conditions.
Existentially, needs can be viewed as anchors that give meaning to our lives. Yet, this meaning is often predicated on the continual pursuit of fulfillment, which can lead to an endless cycle of desire and disappointment. Spiritually, transcending needs can be seen as a path to enlightenment, where one achieves a state of contentment and unity with all existence, free from the dualities of lack and fulfillment. Exploring the concept of need across both living and non-living entities broadens our understanding of the fundamental nature of existence. In living beings, needs are typically biologically or psychologically driven, manifesting as impulses towards survival, reproduction, and social bonding. In contrast, the ‘needs’ of non-living entities—such as the need for maintenance or preservation—are attributed by human perspectives, often reflecting our own values or necessities imposed upon objects or systems.
When a need vanishes without fulfillment, it raises profound questions about its existence. Was it a real need, or merely a temporary desire? This question aligns with the philosophical inquiry into the nature of being and non-being. In metaphysical terms, the disappearance of a need without fulfillment suggests that it may have been a contingent, not a necessary state. Contingent needs are dependent on specific conditions and perceptions, which can change over time and context, leading to the dissolution of the perceived need. The journey towards fulfilling a need is often fraught with turmoil and dissatisfaction. This chaos, particularly evident in the human experience, stems from the tension between current states of lack and the anticipated states of fulfillment. Psychologically, this turmoil can be seen in the frustration, anxiety, and even despair that arise in the pursuit of unmet needs. The existential tension here is the human confrontation with limitation and imperfection.
Philosophically, the condition of being ‘in need’ can be seen as a fundamental aspect of the human condition. Existential philosophers have long grappled with the notion of lack as a core component of existence. Jean-Paul Sartre, for instance, discussed how human consciousness is defined by a lack—being “for-itself” implies a constant striving towards an elusive “in-itself,” a state of being that remains perpetually out of reach, creating a perpetual state of desire and resultant existential void.
From another perspective, the chaos and discomfort experienced in the face of unmet needs can also be transformative. This aligns with the concept of “creative destruction” in economic theory, where old structures must be destroyed to make way for new, potentially more adaptive arrangements. Psychologically, enduring the discomfort of unfulfilled needs can lead to personal growth, resilience, and a deeper understanding of oneself and one’s true priorities. In spiritual traditions, particularly those influenced by non-dualistic philosophies, the ultimate aim is often described as transcending need altogether. This transcendence is not about achieving a state where no physical or psychological needs exist, but rather reaching a state of consciousness where one is no longer enslaved by those needs. This state is characterized by a profound inner peace and contentment, where external conditions no longer dictate one’s inner state. Thus, the existence of need, its fulfillment, or its vanishing without impact each carry significant implications. These phenomena invite us to reflect on the ephemeral and often illusory nature of needs. They challenge us to consider whether true fulfillment comes from satisfying every need or from cultivating a state of being that is free from the tyranny of need.
As we delve further into the dynamics of need and its fulfillment, it becomes crucial to distinguish between short-term satisfaction and long-term fulfillment. Immediate resolution of needs often brings temporary relief, but the underlying drivers—whether emotional, psychological, or spiritual—may still persist. This introduces a cyclical pattern where fulfilled needs may resurface or evolve into new desires, suggesting that the root of need is not merely in the external lack but in a deeper, internal void. Existentially, the concept of need pushes individuals to confront their freedom and responsibility. Jean-Paul Sartre’s idea of existential freedom suggests that while we are free to pursue our needs, we are also responsible for the choices we make in response to these needs. This freedom is double-edged; it empowers but also burdens us with the responsibility of discernment and decision-making, highlighting the existential challenge of navigating needs without clear, predefined paths. The pursuit of fulfilling all needs can create an illusion that perpetual satisfaction is attainable. This illusion can lead to constant striving and dissatisfaction, as each fulfilled need often gives rise to new desires. Philosophically, this reflects the Buddhist teaching on the nature of desire and suffering. Recognizing this cycle can lead to a profound existential and spiritual inquiry: Is there an end to need, or is the human condition inherently defined by endless desire?
In spiritual traditions, particularly those advocating non-attachment and detachment, the ultimate freedom is described as a state of needlessness. This does not imply a lack of engagement with the world but rather an engagement that is free from the compulsion of needs. Achieving such a state is often described as enlightenment, where one exists in complete harmony with the universe, undisturbed by individual desires and aversions. One of the central paradoxes in the realm of need is the tension between dependence and independence. On one hand, fulfilling basic needs often requires interdependence—relying on others and the environment, which seemingly contradicts the ideal of self-sufficiency. On the other hand, the more we fulfill certain needs, the more autonomous we may become, capable of pursuing higher, more abstract needs such as self-actualization. Yet, this pursuit can lead back to new dependencies, such as the need for validation or intellectual stimulation, illustrating a cyclical return to interdependence.
Needs emerge from a sense of lack or emptiness, driving us to seek fulfillment to feel complete. Paradoxically, this quest for completion through fulfilling needs can deepen the sense of emptiness, as each fulfillment often reveals new voids. This reflects the Buddhist notion that desire (and its fulfillment) inherently leads to suffering due to the impermanent nature of all conditioned phenomena. Thus, the very act of seeking wholeness through external fulfillment paradoxically perpetuates emptiness. Another paradox lies in the relationship between desire and liberation. In many spiritual traditions, liberation is attained through the cessation of desire. However, the initial movement towards liberation itself arises from a desire—the desire to be free from suffering. This presents a fundamental paradox: one must harness desire to ultimately transcend all desires. The path to liberation, therefore, involves navigating through desires in a way that gradually diminishes their power over one’s state of being. The pursuit of self-improvement is often driven by the recognition of one’s needs and deficiencies. This pursuit, intended to overcome limitations, paradoxically reaffirms those limitations by constantly highlighting areas of lack. The more one engages in self-improvement, the more one might become aware of further imperfections, potentially leading to a never-ending cycle of self-enhancement and the persistent sense of being ‘not enough.’
The ultimate understanding is that distinctions between need and fulfillment are illusory—both are manifestations of the same underlying reality, perceived differently due to mental conditioning and dualistic thinking. Here, the paradox is that need and its resolution are not truly separate; they are two sides of the same coin. Recognizing this non-duality can lead to a profound shift in how one experiences need and fulfillment, seeing them not as opposing forces but as interconnected aspects of life’s unfolding.
Mystique of Manifestation: Sculpting Reality
To understand manifestation, we must journey back to ancient philosophies and spiritual teachings. In Eastern philosophies, particularly within Hinduism and Buddhism, the concept of ‘Sankalpa’ or intention is paramount. It suggests that focused intention with a clear vision and a pure heart, has the power to shape one’s reality. This aligns closely with the Buddhist teaching of ‘Pratītyasamutpāda’ or dependent origination, which posits that all phenomena arise in interdependence and not in isolation. In Western thought, traces of manifestation can be found in the works of philosophers like Aristotle, who emphasized the power of potentiality and actuality – the transformation of what ‘could be’ into what ‘is’. This idea was further nuanced in the Hermetic traditions, particularly in the principle of ‘As above, so below’, suggesting a mirror-like relationship between the macrocosm (the universe) and the microcosm (the individual). In psychology, manifestation finds resonance with the theory of self-fulfilling prophecy and the placebo effect. The former, proposed by sociologist Robert K. Merton, argues that believing in a certain outcome can indeed cause it to occur, primarily through the lens of expectation influencing behavior. The placebo effect, a well-documented phenomenon in medical science, further illustrates how belief can result in tangible changes in the physical body.
Is manifestation empirical or imaginary? The answer is nuanced. While certain aspects, like the placebo effect, have empirical evidence, other elements tread into the subjective and personal realms of belief and faith, which evade empirical scrutiny.
When individuals set an intention, their subconscious mind begins aligning thoughts and actions towards the desired outcome. This alignment can often result in heightened awareness of opportunities and a greater propensity to take actions that lead towards the goal. Manifestation often emphasizes the importance of ‘feeling’ the reality of the desired outcome. This emotional resonance might act as a catalyst for more profound engagement with one’s goals, thereby increasing the likelihood of their realization. Manifestation is not a magic wand. The constraints of physical reality, combined with personal limitations (skills, resources, timing), play a significant role. Moreover, a misunderstanding of manifestation as merely ‘wishing’ without corresponding action leads to its ineffectiveness. The universe is not entirely predictable. Random events and external factors beyond one’s control can influence outcomes, irrespective of one’s intentions or actions.
Manifestation often works more effectively at the level of basic needs because these needs are more deeply connected to our survival instincts and thus, may be more intensely focused upon. Desires, especially those that are more whimsical or less aligned with our core values and needs, might not hold the same power in our psyche, leading to lesser focus and energy directed towards them.
Psychologically, when we set an intention to manifest something, it often creates a state of cognitive dissonance – a psychological tension between our current reality and our desired state. Leon Festinger’s theory suggests that we are intrinsically motivated to reduce this dissonance. This motivation can lead to a change in attitude or behavior, aligning more closely with the desired outcome. When we are focused on manifesting a particular outcome, we tend to notice and give importance to events and information that support our beliefs or desires. This selective attention can sometimes make the process of manifestation seem more effective than it might objectively be. A common misconception is that manifestation is solely about attracting what you desire through thought. This overlooks the necessity of action and the multifaceted nature of human experiences where external factors and chance also play significant roles. While the idea of manifesting one’s destiny is empowering, it can oversimplify the complexities of life’s challenges. Issues like systemic inequality, health problems, and other factors often cannot be resolved merely through positive thinking or intention setting.
The subconscious mind is a powerful aspect of our psyche, operating below the level of conscious awareness. It plays a critical role in manifestation. Our deep-seated beliefs, often formed in childhood and shaped by our experiences, reside here. These beliefs can either propel us towards our goals or hold us back. The process of manifestation often involves reprogramming the subconscious to align with our conscious desires. Visualization, a key technique in manifestation practices, leverages the brain’s neuroplasticity. By repeatedly visualizing a desired outcome, we can potentially rewire our brain to be more attuned to opportunities and actions that can make the visualization a reality. This practice can create mental and emotional readiness, aligning our internal state with our external actions. The power of manifestation comes with responsibility. It raises questions about ethics and intentions. For instance, manifesting at the expense of others or for purely selfish gains goes against many spiritual teachings’ emphasis on compassion and interconnectedness.
Carl Jung’s concept of the Shadow Self is pivotal in understanding manifestation. The Shadow encompasses the parts of ourselves we reject or ignore. When these aspects are unacknowledged, they can sabotage our manifesting efforts. For instance, if someone desires success but subconsciously harbors a fear of failure or unworthiness, these shadow elements can hinder manifestation. The nature of desire itself is complex. Desires are not always straightforward or conscious. They can be influenced by societal expectations, past traumas, or unmet childhood needs. Understanding and untangling these desires is crucial in manifestation, as conflicting or unconscious desires can lead to mixed results or unfulfilled outcomes.
Many spiritual traditions, such as Buddhism, advocate for non-attachment to outcomes. This presents a paradox in manifestation: How does one intensely desire and visualize an outcome while simultaneously practicing detachment from it? Balancing intense desire with a state of inner peace and acceptance is a nuanced aspect of manifestation. At the heart of this complexity is the human psyche itself, an intricate and layered entity. The conscious mind, where intentions and desires are actively formed, is just the tip of the iceberg. Beneath this lies the vast expanse of the subconscious, a realm filled with deeply ingrained beliefs, past experiences, and emotional patterns. Often, these subconscious elements are not in complete harmony with our conscious desires. This discord can subtly undermine our efforts at manifestation, creating an internal resistance that might not be immediately apparent. This inner landscape is often a repository of contradictory desires, fears, and conditioning from past experiences. For instance, a person might consciously desire success but subconsciously fear it due to past experiences of failure or a deep-seated belief that they are unworthy of success. These subconscious elements create a complex inner dialogue, often leading to a manifestation process that is less straightforward and more convoluted than initially assumed.
A central paradox in the art of manifestation is the balance between control and surrender. On one hand, manifestation requires a clear vision and proactive effort towards achieving our goals. On the other hand, there is a need for surrender – an acceptance of the unknown and an acknowledgment that not everything is within our control.
This balance is not a static state but a dynamic equilibrium, constantly shifting as we navigate through life. It involves recognizing our co-creative role in the universe while also understanding that the universe has its own wisdom and timing. In many spiritual traditions, this surrender is not seen as a weakness but as a strength – a deep trust in the larger cosmic order.
Manifestation is also intimately tied to the concepts of timing and synchronicity. The universe operates on its own rhythms and cycles, which do not always align with our personal timelines. Sometimes, what we wish for does not manifest not because the intention is flawed, but because the timing is not right. Synchronicity, a term coined by Carl Jung, refers to meaningful coincidences that seem to defy conventional explanations. In the context of manifestation, synchronicity can be seen as the universe’s way of aligning our intentions with the right opportunities and connections. These synchronicities are often markers that we are in harmony with the larger flow of life, guiding us towards our goals in ways that our rational minds may not immediately comprehend.
If we’re not tired of reading, let’s delve deeper into it to understand the finer nuances of “Manifesting in the Now”!
When we manifest in the now, our focus is not on a future goal but on the quality and richness of our present experience. This form of manifestation is about aligning with the current moment, fully engaging with it, and allowing it to unfold naturally. It’s a state of being deeply rooted in the present, where every action and thought is an expression of our intention to be fully alive and aware in the here and now. In this state, the power of manifestation is not directed toward changing or obtaining something in the future, but in transforming the present moment. It’s about bringing a quality of awareness, gratitude, and intentionality to whatever we are experiencing. This approach often involves a heightened sense of awareness and mindfulness, where each action and thought is infused with a conscious presence.
Manifesting in the now aligns closely with the concept of non-attachment found in various spiritual traditions. Non-attachment doesn’t mean not caring about outcomes; rather, it’s about not being controlled by the desire for specific outcomes. This approach allows for a more fluid interaction with life, where one is open to the myriad possibilities that each moment presents, free from the constraints of rigid expectations. The ‘now’ is often viewed as the only true reality. Past and future are seen as constructs of the mind, illusions that distract from the full experience of life. In this context, manifesting in the now becomes a practice of deep spiritual significance. It’s about aligning with the eternal present, where all of life’s potentialities exist in a state of pure possibility.
Here Time is realised as an illusion, a linear construct that confines the boundless nature of consciousness. By focusing on manifesting in the now, one steps out of the confines of chronological time and into a more fluid, timeless state of being. This state is often described as experiencing the eternal ‘now’, where every moment holds infinite potential and is complete in itself. The concept of desire is paradoxical. While desires are seen as natural, there’s an emphasis on non-attachment to them. Manifesting in the now, therefore, involves a balance between honoring one’s desires and simultaneously releasing attachment to their outcomes. It’s about fully engaging with life as it is, without being ensnared by the relentless pursuit of specific goals.
Intention is more than just a goal or a desire. It’s a powerful force that shapes the energy and direction of our lives. By focusing on the present, intentions are set not for future outcomes but for the quality and experience of the present moment. Manifesting in the now is seen as a tool for the transformation of consciousness. It shifts the focus from external achievements to internal growth and understanding, fostering a deeper connection with the self and the universe. This practice aligns with the belief that the universe operates in a state of perfect harmony and balance. By focusing on the now, one aligns with this cosmic rhythm, experiencing life as a seamless flow rather than a series of disjointed events.
Let’s touch little bit on the illusion of separation as well – the false belief that we are distinct and isolated from the rest of existence. This illusion is perpetuated by our adherence to linear time. In the practice of manifesting in the now, this illusion begins to fade. The present moment is understood not as a fleeting point between past and future, but as the eternal ‘now’ – a timeless space where all of existence converges.
Consciousness is not static but fluid and ever-changing. It’s like a river flowing through the landscape of reality, constantly reshaped by its interactions with the external world and internal states. Manifesting in the now becomes an act of navigating this fluidity, understanding the transient nature of thoughts and emotions, and aligning with the deeper currents of consciousness.
The deepest aspect of manifesting in the now is self-realization – the understanding of one’s true nature beyond the ego and individual identity. In this state, manifestation is not about bringing desires into reality but realizing that one’s essential nature is already whole and complete. In this space, manifestation is experienced as an alignment with the cosmic dance of creation, where the distinction between the manifestor and the manifested blurs with the ultimate realisation “Manifestor is manifested”.
Into the Heart of Now: “NOW” Unveiled
We are what we are doing right now” taps into the philosophical and psychological realms of existence, perception, and human behaviour. Going further, we begin to see a confluence of various factors, which draw us away from the present moment, and push us into the embrace of either the past or the future. At the very heart of human existence is our incessant need to find meaning. We seek purpose, direction, and a sense of understanding about our lives. This pursuit often becomes a bridge connecting the past, present, and future. Our past experiences, both triumphant and traumatic, linger in our minds, continuously shaping our present perceptions. They become stories we tell ourselves, lessons we’ve learned, and at times, scars that haven’t fully healed. The future, on the other hand, represents our hopes, fears, dreams, and anxieties. It’s a canvas upon which we project our desires and apprehensions.
The expectation of outcomes is an inherent human trait. It is rooted in our evolutionary drive for predictability and control. For our ancestors, predicting potential dangers and outcomes was a matter of survival. Over millennia, this instinct has got inculcated with our complex cognitive structures, resulting in our modern-day anxieties about the future and ruminations on the past. However, the irony lies in the fact that the more we seek to control outcomes, the more we find ourselves entangled in a web of expectations. These expectations often lead to inner conflicts. When the present doesn’t align with our anticipated future, dissatisfaction ensues. And when the weight of past regrets is heavy, it dims the light of the present. Furthermore, the very act of striving to stay in the ‘now’ can itself become a source of distraction. If one is perpetually conscious about remaining anchored in the present, then this very consciousness becomes a barrier. The effort to stay present can sometimes be as distracting as the past memories or future anxieties that pull us away.
In today’s world, there’s also the influence of societal structures and norms. We live in societies that prize outcomes—success is often defined not by the journey, but by the destination. From a young age, we’re conditioned to focus on results, whether it’s grades in school or milestones in personal and professional lives. This societal molding further deepens our attachment to outcomes and amplifies our detachment from the present.
It is also crucial to understand the role of human consciousness in shaping our experience of time. Our consciousness is not just a passive observer; it actively constructs our sense of reality. Every moment we live is filtered through a myriad of cognitive processes, memories, and emotions. This complexity means that we often don’t experience the world “as it is” but rather “as we are.”
Neurologically speaking, our brain’s default mode network, an intricate web of interconnected brain regions, becomes most active when our attention is not occupied by tasks. This network is linked with thinking about others, thinking about oneself, remembering the past, and planning for the future. Thus, even when we aim to be in the present, our brains often naturally drift towards contemplations of the past and future. The challenges in remaining present can also be attributed to our cognitive structures, which include biases, such as the “negativity bias” – our innate human tendency to give more weight to negative experiences than positive ones. This bias can cause past traumas or failures to overshadow current joys, anchoring us in bygone moments of pain or disappointment. On the other hand, the future holds the allure of the unknown. This uncertainty can be both enticing and anxiety-inducing. Our modern societies, with their rapid changes and technological advancements, amplify this by creating an environment where change is the only constant. The evolving landscapes of our personal and professional lives mean that the future is more unpredictable than ever, making it a potent magnet for our attention and energy. Yet, amidst these complexities, lies a simple truth: the only tangible reality is the present. While memories shape and color our past and aspirations carve out our perceived futures, the ‘now’ is the only temporal space where action occurs, where life is truly lived.
Let’s explore this further!
What if “Now” encapsulates everything – past, present, and future ? This perspective challenges traditional temporal distinctions or divisions we create in and between Past, Present and Future. This viewpoint reframes our understanding of time and our place within its continuum. When we speak of living in the now, it’s often portrayed as a juxtaposition against being lost in memories of the past or anxieties about the future. However, what if everything is indeed a part of the “now” ?
Imagine time as a vast river. In this river, every drop of water represents a moment. While some drops are behind us (the past) and others ahead (the future), they all collectively belong to the river, which is the “now”. In this perspective, the entirety of existence – our memories, current experiences, and anticipations – are interconnected and concurrently present in an expansive “now”. From this viewpoint, distractions aren’t diversions from the present moment; they are simply different facets of the ever-expanding “now”. The reminiscences of a childhood memory or the contemplation about a future event are as much a part of our current experience as the sensation of the chair we’re sitting on. Every thought, emotion, and sensation, regardless of the temporal context it references, emerges and is experienced in the present moment.
The division we often make between the past, present, and future might be a result of our cognitive architecture. The human mind, in its quest for order and understanding, categorizes experiences. This compartmentalization aids in processing complex information. For instance, labeling an experience as a “memory” helps us contextualize it, discern lessons from it, or even prevent future mistakes. Similarly, projecting into the future can be a survival mechanism, allowing us to anticipate potential threats or opportunities.
However, by understanding that everything occurs in the “now”, we can achieve a form of holistic consciousness. This realization offers liberation. It frees us from the confines of linear temporality and allows a more integrated experience of existence. Such a perspective is echoed in various spiritual and philosophical traditions. For instance, in Eastern philosophies, there’s an emphasis on the interconnectedness of all things, where dichotomies are more apparent than real. Yet, while this concept is enlightening, it’s also challenging. Our societal structures, languages, and even our neurobiology are geared towards a linear understanding of time. Overcoming this deeply ingrained perspective requires consistent introspection and possibly even a paradigm shift in our consciousness.
Let’s delve deeper into the expansive Present:
Linear time, where events occur in a sequence from past to present to future, might be more of a cognitive construct than an intrinsic property of the universe. Physics, especially in the realm of relativity and quantum mechanics, has already shown us that time doesn’t always behave in the ways our everyday experiences might suggest. The famous physicist John Wheeler once proposed the idea of a “participatory universe,” suggesting that observers play a role in shaping their own realities, which includes the experience of time. Every thought, emotion, or memory we experience happens in the present moment of consciousness. Even when we recall a past event or anticipate a future one, that activity occurs in the current moment of awareness. This raises the idea that consciousness itself might be beyond time. It’s a continuous stream where “past” and “future” are merely parts of the grander “now.”
If we fully embrace the idea that everything is part of the “now,” it alters how we relate to our experiences. Regret, nostalgia, anxiety, and hope, which are emotions anchored in our traditional understanding of time, undergo a transformation. For example, instead of feeling regretful for a past decision, understanding its occurrence in the vastness of “now” might lead to acceptance and integration of that experience. Memory plays a crucial role in our understanding of time. Our memories, though referencing past events, are dynamic and malleable. They’re reconstructed every time we recall them. In essence, every time we remember something, we’re experiencing it anew in the present moment. This blurs the boundaries between past events and current experiences, reinforcing the idea of an all-encompassing “now.” While the concept is philosophically and spiritually enriching, it poses challenges in our day-to-day lives dominated by schedules, deadlines, and plans. How does one reconcile the linear demands of modern life with a non-linear understanding of time? This balance requires us to function efficiently in the world while internally maintaining an awareness of the deeper, interconnected reality.
Let’s delve further into More finer details: what if we kill “Now”?
When we speak of “killing” the now, we’re essentially talking about transcending our typical awareness of time and moving into a state of pure being, a consciousness unfettered by the confines of temporal experience. The idea that time itself might be an illusion is not new. From the ancient Eastern philosophies to cutting-edge quantum mechanics, there are suggestions that what we experience as the flow of time might be a cognitive and perceptual construct. Our brains organize experiences in a linear fashion, from cause to effect, creating the sense of a flowing river of moments, from the past, through the present, and into the future. But if we could step outside this stream, what would consciousness look like? If we “kill” the now, we’re essentially trying to access a state of pure awareness—a consciousness devoid of content, without thoughts, perceptions, or sensations. Many meditative practices aim to reach this state, often described as “thoughtless awareness” or “contentless consciousness.” In this state, the meditator isn’t focused on any particular thing (like the breath, a mantra, or an image), but instead simply exists. It’s a state of being rather than doing.
Attempting to attain a state of pure awareness can be paradoxical. The very effort to reach this state can prevent one from achieving it, as effort and intention are temporal and future-oriented in nature. It’s like trying to smooth turbulent water with one’s hand—the act of trying only creates more turbulence. It requires a letting go rather than a striving, a surrender rather than a pursuit. To “kill” the now is to step beyond dualities—the past and future, cause and effect, self and other. This is a realm often spoken of in mysticism and spirituality, where one transcends the perceived divisions of existence. It’s a state of unity, of oneness, where the individual self melts away into the all-encompassing whole.
While these states of consciousness can be transformative, they can be challenging to maintain in our everyday, pragmatic world. Our society operates on schedules, plans, and routines. However, even fleeting experiences of this transcendent state can profoundly affect our daily lives. It can offer insights, change perspectives, and create a deep-seated sense of peace. From the perspective of many ancient traditions, the universe is in a constant dance of creation and destruction. The “now” that we experience is just one beat of this cosmic dance. To “kill” the now is not to negate or nullify it, but to merge with the dance itself, to become one with the rhythm of existence.
Is harmony defined by us is really harmonious ?
The universe operates on a balance. Dualities like light and dark, joy and sorrow, and so on, are not in contention with each other but rather two sides of the same coin. They provide context and meaning. It’s akin to understanding that one cannot truly appreciate light without having known darkness. Our existence is enigmatic, where a myriad of elements interplay in a vast cosmic dance. Every action, no matter how minute, sends ripples across the fabric of the universe. Such is the interconnectedness and oneness that defines the cosmos. But amidst this vastness, we humans grapple with the age-old questions: Why are we here? Why do we feel disconnected when everything is intrinsically connected? And, why is our life, despite being a part of this vast universe, so often defined by duality?
Consider the universe as an immense symphony, where every entity is like a note, contributing to an eternal, harmonious melody. From the most massive stars to the tiniest organisms, everything is in sync, vibrating in tune with the universe. This sense of harmony is a constant, even if it’s not always immediately apparent. However, the human experience often feels at odds with this cosmic harmony. We frequently perceive life through the lens of duality: good vs. evil, happiness vs. sorrow, success vs. failure. Such bifurcations arise primarily from our mental frameworks, shaped by societal norms, personal experiences, and evolutionary predispositions.
In our evolutionary journey, the human brain developed cognitive systems to categorize, discriminate, and simplify the complex stimuli of the external world, making it digestible and navigable. This cognitive system is a survival tool, enabling us to swiftly identify threats from non-threats, edible food from inedible, and so on. Over time, as societies became more sophisticated, these dualistic mental models began to govern not just our interactions with the environment but also our self-perception, aspirations, and relationships. This dualistic approach further feeds into the illusion of separateness — a feeling that we are distinct from the rest of the universe. Despite being made of stardust and sharing common atomic ancestors with everything around us, we often feel isolated or alienated. Such feelings intensify when we face adversities, leading many to question the harmony and purpose of existence.
Our understanding of freedom is entwined with our perception of duality. True freedom is not just liberation from external constraints but also from internal ones, like prejudices, fears, and limiting beliefs. To break free from the life’s cycle, one needs to reconcile with dualities, recognizing them as constructs rather than inherent truths. As we delve deeper into the framework of existence, we find that duality isn’t inherently detrimental. Instead, it provides contrast, lending depth and dimension to our experiences. Just as the contrasting strokes of a painting give it life and depth, the dualities of our lives add vibrancy and richness to our existence. Without dark, there would be no understanding of light; without sorrow, the true essence of joy would remain unknown.
Much of our attachment to duality stems from societal and cultural conditioning. From childhood, we’re taught to label and categorize experiences: winning is good, losing is bad; happiness is desirable, sadness is not. Over time, these labels solidify into beliefs, shaping our perceptions and reactions. For instance, consider the universally accepted notion of success. Societal metrics of success often revolve around material wealth, social status, and professional achievements. However, if we were to strip away these conditioned beliefs and look at life through an unfiltered lens, we might find that true success lies in inner contentment, meaningful relationships, and personal growth.
Our fixation on the ephemeral aspects of life — fleeting emotions, transient experiences, and temporal possessions — further entrenches us in the duality trap. In the rush of life, we often overlook the eternal — the unchanging, omnipresent essence that underlies all existence. This essence, often referred to in spiritual contexts as the ‘Self’ or ‘Consciousness,’ remains unaffected by the dualities that play out on the surface.
By connecting with this eternal aspect of ourselves, we begin to view dualities with a sense of detachment. They appear as passing clouds against the vast sky of our existence, impactful in the moment but not defining our eternal essence. Aligning with the duality doesn’t mean becoming passive or indifferent. It means engaging with life wholeheartedly, experiencing every emotion, every high and low, but without letting them dictate our inner state. With heightened awareness, we can navigate the complexities of life with grace, recognizing the transient nature of our experiences.
This awareness doesn’t diminish our experiences but rather enriches them. When we embrace both the joys and sorrows of life with equanimity, we live more fully, more authentically. We begin to see challenges as opportunities for growth, failures as lessons, and successes as moments of gratitude.
Our perception of disharmony is influenced by our thoughts, emotions, and our attachments to outcomes. When we find ourselves in situations we didn’t desire or anticipate, our immediate response is resistance. This resistance, this non-acceptance, creates friction – a perceived disharmony.
The journey to non-duality is a continuous process of introspection, reflection, and growth. Various spiritual traditions offer paths to transcend duality: the Yogic tradition advocates for meditation and self-inquiry, Buddhism emphasizes mindfulness and compassion, while Taoism teaches the art of flowing with life, embracing both its yin and yang.
The common thread across these traditions is the idea of returning to one’s true nature — a state of pure consciousness, free from the constraints of duality.
The Journey Beyond Separation: A Tale of the Observer and the Observed from Krishnamurti’s insights
Once in a village nestled between the mountains and the sea, there lived a young man named Arjun. Arjun was a seeker of truth, always inquisitive and eager to understand the deeper mysteries of life. He spent his days contemplating the nature of existence, and his nights were filled with vivid dreams that seemed to offer glimpses into another realm.
One day, as Arjun sat beneath a sprawling banyan tree, he found himself pondering the nature of the observer and the observed. He thought about the way he saw the world around him, and the way he experienced his own thoughts and emotions. Arjun wondered why there always seemed to be a sense of separation between the observer – the one who experiences – and the observed – the experience itself.
As he meditated on this question, a wise old sage appeared before him. The sage, sensing Arjun’s confusion, offered to share his knowledge of the observer and the observed. With a warm smile, he began to tell Arjun a story.
“Once upon a time,” the sage said, “there was a great kingdom ruled by two powerful beings – the Observer and the Observed. The kingdom was vast, encompassing all the thoughts, emotions, and sensations that anyone could ever experience. The Observer was the ruler of this kingdom, watching over everything, while the Observed was the manifestation of every experience, taking countless forms.
The Observer and the Observed existed in a state of harmony, their existence intertwined like the roots of the banyan tree beneath which you sit. But as time went on, they began to drift apart. The Observer became more and more detached, watching from a distance, while the Observed grew increasingly fragmented, its experiences becoming more diverse and complex.
This separation led to the rise of a great wall, dividing the once-unified kingdom into two distinct realms. On one side of the wall, the Observer resided, detached and distant, while on the other side, the Observed continued to manifest in myriad forms, each one disconnected from the others.
Arjun, captivated by the story, asked the sage, “But why did they drift apart? What caused the separation between the Observer and the Observed?”
The sage replied, “The separation began when the Observer started to identify with its own thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Instead of seeing itself as an inseparable part of the whole, it began to believe that it was separate, distinct from the Observed. This belief created a false sense of identity, a sense of ‘I’ that became the root of all division and conflict.”
Arjun’s eyes widened as he realized the implications of the sage’s words. “So, the separation between the Observer and the Observed is an illusion, created by our own minds?”
The sage nodded. “Yes, Arjun. The true nature of the Observer and the Observed is one of unity, not division. To transcend this illusion, you must embark on a journey of self-discovery. You must turn your attention inward and observe your own thoughts, emotions, and sensations without judgment or attachment. Through this process of choiceless observation, you will begin to dissolve the wall that separates the Observer and the Observed.”
Arjun thanked the sage for his wisdom and set out on a journey to explore the depths of his own mind. Through years of diligent self-inquiry and observation, he began to see the interconnectedness of all things and the illusory nature of the separation between the Observer and the Observed.
And as the wall of separation crumbled, Arjun discovered a profound sense of peace, freedom, and wholeness that transcended all limitations. In this state of unity, he finally understood the true essence of existence and the boundless potential of the human spirit.
As the years passed, Arjun became a wise and compassionate teacher, guiding others on their own journeys of self-discovery. He shared the story of the Observer and the Observed with all who sought his counsel, reminding them of the illusion of separation and the unity that lies at the heart of existence.
In time, the message of unity spread throughout the land, and people from all walks of life began to embrace the wisdom of the Observer and the Observed. They learned to look within, to observe their thoughts and emotions without judgment, and to recognize the interconnected nature of all things.
The kingdom, once divided by the great wall of separation, was reunited, and harmony reigned once more. The Observer and the Observed, no longer divided, danced together in an eternal celebration of life, free from the shackles of illusion.
And so, the legacy of Arjun and the wisdom of the Observer and the Observed lived on, passed down from generation to generation, as a reminder that the true nature of existence lies not in division and conflict but in unity and harmony.
In this tale of the Observer and the Observed, we are reminded to look within, to examine our own minds and the divisions we create. Through choiceless observation and self-inquiry, we can begin to dissolve the illusion of separation, embracing the unity and interconnectedness that is our true nature.
As we embark on our own journeys of self-discovery, may we, like Arjun, find the wisdom to transcend the limitations of the conditioned mind and the courage to share this understanding with others, fostering a world in which the harmony of the Observer and the Observed reigns supreme.
Suffering and Pleasure: The Inseparable Duality of Human Experience
The human experience is characterized by a continuous dance between suffering and pleasure. These seemingly opposing forces often appear to be at odds with one another, yet they are deeply interconnected, forming the fabric of our lives. To understand the true nature of suffering and pleasure, we must examine their relationship and recognize the delicate balance that exists between them.
The Cycle of Suffering and Pleasure
Suffering and pleasure are both manifestations of the same underlying energy. They arise from our desires and attachments, as we seek to fulfill our needs and avoid pain. This pursuit of pleasure often leads to a temporary sense of satisfaction, but it is inevitably followed by suffering, as our desires remain unfulfilled, or the pleasure fades away.
Our minds constantly oscillate between these two states, caught in a cycle of craving and aversion. We chase after pleasure, only to find that it is fleeting and impermanent. In our attempts to avoid suffering, we inadvertently create more of it, as we become attached to the very things that cause us pain.
The Illusion of Separation
The belief that suffering and pleasure are separate entities is an illusion created by the mind. In reality, they are two sides of the same coin, existing in a state of interdependence. To truly understand this duality, we must recognize that suffering and pleasure are not absolute, but rather relative experiences shaped by our perceptions and conditioning.
When we cling to pleasure and resist suffering, we strengthen the illusion of separation, perpetuating the cycle of craving and aversion. By embracing both aspects of our experience, we can begin to see their interconnected nature and break free from the bondage of duality.
Moving Beyond the Duality
To move beyond the dualistic nature of suffering and pleasure, we must first cultivate a deep sense of self-awareness. By observing our thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judgment, we can begin to see the patterns and conditioning that drive our pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain.
As we develop this awareness, we can learn to recognize the impermanence of both suffering and pleasure. By understanding that all experiences are transient, we can gradually loosen our attachments and desires, allowing ourselves to embrace the full spectrum of human experience without clinging or resistance.
The Path to Freedom
The journey towards freedom from the duality of suffering and pleasure requires a fundamental shift in our perception and understanding. As we learn to see beyond the illusion of separation, we can begin to embrace the inherent interconnectedness of all experiences, transcending the limitations of the mind and discovering our true nature.
In this state of non-duality, we can find a profound sense of inner peace and equanimity, free from the constant fluctuations of pleasure and pain. By recognizing the interconnected nature of suffering and pleasure, we can awaken to the wholeness of our being and experience the true beauty of life in all its forms.
Abhishek Fanse 