Understanding the fleeting nature of “Happiness”
Realising you’re happy and consequently puncturing that happiness—is a manifestation of the self-reflexive quality of human consciousness. It reflects our ability not only to experience emotions but also to have thoughts about those experiences, including the experience of happiness. At the most immediate level, we have sensory experiences and emotional reactions. These are our raw, unfiltered engagements with the world around us. But atop this immediate experience, we have a secondary layer of experience: our thoughts about our experiences. This secondary layer is where we interpret, judge, anticipate, and reflect.

The paradox here is that this second layer of experience can intrude upon and alter the first. By realizing we’re happy, we move the experience of happiness from the immediate realm into the realm of reflection and analysis. This can have a distancing effect, making the happiness less vivid and more abstract. The “self” that is experiencing happiness is no longer fully integrated with the experience; part of it has stepped aside to observe.
The awareness of happiness can also bring about a sense of sadness or melancholy. This is because our reflective consciousness is not only evaluative but also temporal; it exists in time. When we realize we’re happy, we also realize that the moment is fleeting, that it will pass. This injects a sense of loss or nostalgia into the current experience, dampening the happiness with a layer of sadness. There’s also the pressure that once identified, the feeling of happiness must be maintained, which turns it into an object of concern.

In some Eastern philosophies, for example, the ultimate state of happiness or enlightenment is one that transcends both happiness and sadness, existing in a state of pure “beingness” that is beyond dualities. Western philosophies often engage deeply with the notion of existential angst, the idea that human freedom and awareness are both a gift and a curse, capable of both elevating and diminishing our experiences. Humans are narrative creatures. We don’t just experience things; we also construct stories around our experiences, which become a part of the experience itself. Realizing you’re happy can sometimes feel like a narrative high point, a climax. But climaxes are, by their nature, transitional; they mark the point where a story begins to move toward its conclusion. This can create a sense of impending descent, which can tinge even the most joyous moments with a shade of melancholy. There’s a compelling argument to be made for the richness added to our lives by our ability to reflect on our experiences. This meta-experience, the experience of experiencing, adds depth and texture to our lives. It’s the thing that allows us to appreciate art, to fall in love, to engage in complex moral reasoning. But it comes at a cost: the cost of immediacy. The more we reflect on our experiences, the less we’re able to engage with them directly. It’s like being the actor and the audience at the same time. This dual nature of consciousness is both a blessing and a curse. While it allows us the richness of introspection and self-awareness, it also sets up a scenario where the observer can interfere with the experience.
When you realize you’re happy, you’re essentially stepping out of the experience to label it. The moment you do that, you bring in the concept of time. Emotions, when lived, are timeless. They’re states of being. But when you observe them, you also acknowledge their temporality—they become moments that have started and will eventually end. This implicit understanding of the fleeting nature of happiness casts a shadow on the experience, thereby altering its composition and introducing elements of sadness or anxiety.
The awareness of happiness can trigger broader questions about the nature of existence, purpose, and meaning. Happiness is often viewed as an ‘end,’ a goal in life. Once achieved, its realization can create a form of existential vacuum, a questioning of ‘what next?’ This moves you out of the emotional experience and into a cognitive one, involving existential questions that can often be more unsettling than comforting.
Your realization also exemplifies the duality inherent in life experiences. There’s a push and pull between opposing forces: happiness and sadness, awareness and ignorance, temporality and timelessness. Some philosophical traditions, particularly those from Eastern philosophies like Buddhism, suggest that the ultimate state of enlightenment is one that transcends this duality to experience a state of ‘oneness.’ In that state, the act of observing happiness and the experience of happiness itself become one unified experience, without a division that could puncture the emotion. When we experience happiness, it often fits into a story we have about what makes us happy and why. This narrative self can be in constant tension with the experiencing self. The act of realizing you’re happy is a narrative act—it fits this moment of joy into your broader life story. But life stories are complex and filled with ups and downs. Fitting a moment into a narrative can mean subjecting it to all the complexities and contradictions of that narrative, which can dilute the purity of the experience.
On the one hand, mindfulness and self-awareness teach us to observe our feelings, thoughts, and experiences. On the other hand, the very act of observing can sometimes alter or even negate the experience, particularly with transient states like happiness. In quantum physics, the observer effect refers to changes that the act of observation makes on the phenomenon being observed. In psychology, too, observing one’s thoughts and feelings can change them. This is the basis of therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), where the act of observing and questioning one’s thoughts can lead to emotional regulation.

When you realize you’re happy and become acutely aware of that happiness, you might also become aware of the fleeting nature of emotions. This could potentially lead to a decrease in the intensity of your happiness, making it a self-limiting state. The joy is punctured by the awareness of its temporary nature or by the anxiety of losing it. It’s crucial to distinguish between mindfulness and hyper-awareness. Mindfulness means accepting each moment as it is, including your happiness, without clinging to it or fearing its loss. Hyper-awareness, on the other hand, involves scrutinizing the experience so closely that you can’t simply be in it. You’re essentially stepping out of the experience to examine it.
Some of the ways to deal with it:
1. The first step in navigating this paradox is to accept the transient nature of all emotional states. Once we make peace with the ebb and flow of life, the realization that our happiness is temporary becomes less threatening.
2. Aim for a detached form of observation. Observe your happiness without clinging to it, just as you would observe your breath during meditation.
3. Shifting the focus from “Being Happy” to “Being”. When your focus is simply on ‘being,’ without labeling the state you are in, you eliminate the self-imposed pressure to sustain any emotional state, be it happiness or otherwise.
4. Often the anxiety of losing happiness arises from either past experiences or future uncertainties. Dwelling in the present can alleviate that concern.
Perceptions – Consensus Subjectivity vs. Objective Truth
Perception is the process by which sensory information is interpreted, organized, and consciously experienced. This involves not just the mechanical aspects of sensation, but also the psychological elements that interpret and prioritize this data, often filtered through individual beliefs, experiences, and cultural norms. Perception is an interface between an individual’s interior world and the objective reality surrounding them.
In a perfect, objective world, there would be a single, indisputable truth about everything. But humans aren’t perfectly objective beings; our cognitive and sensory apparatus has its limitations. A snake perceives heat differently than a human; a dog perceives scent differently than a human. While the world itself might possess a “universal truth,” our ability to perceive it is shaped by our limitations. If you act with “100% completeness,” it would mean that you have acted in full alignment with your capabilities and intentions. But people perceive your actions based on their own sets of experiences, expectations, and biases, not necessarily based on your intentions. Hence, perceptions can vary even for a universally “complete” action. While the act itself might be independent, its interpretation is not. That’s where perception comes in. Perceptions may be “limited” and “formed by other or for other,” but they play a critical role in social dynamics, ethical considerations, and interpersonal relations.

People rely on perceptions because it’s an accessible way to interpret and navigate the complex world. But it is essential to differentiate between individual perceptions and collective or societal ones. The latter often serves as a “consensus reality,” providing a common framework for communication and understanding. So, while perceptions are limited by their very nature, they are a necessary component of human interaction and society. The real issue arises when perceptions are mistaken for objective truth, ignoring their inherently subjective and conditional nature. We can indeed question the “reality” of different perceptions and argue that they’re all illusory in some way, but as long as humans have subjective experiences, perceptions will continue to differ. And in that diversity of perception lies the complexity, and beauty, of human experience.
Question: can we have any objective experience?
The notion of “objective experience” is a bit of an oxymoron. Experiences are inherently subjective because they are mediated by individual sensory apparatus, psychological states, and sociocultural backgrounds. However, certain frameworks try to minimize subjectivity to get as close to “objectivity” as possible. In the scientific method, for example, experiments are designed to be replicable regardless of who performs them. The idea is to eliminate as much human subjectivity as possible so that the results point to some “objective” truth about the world.
There can be cracks in achieving objectivity in scoring or mathematical experiments as Measurement tools are designed and interpreted by humans, who bring their own sets of assumptions and limitations to the table.

When a majority of individuals agree on a particular experience or observation, this doesn’t necessarily make it “objective” in the sense of an unchanging truth that exists independent of human perception. Rather, it forms a “consensus reality”—a shared framework of understanding that facilitates communal living and communication. While this consensus reality may be treated as “objective” within a specific cultural or social context, it’s not the same as a universal truth that holds across all times and places.
For example, money is a societal consensus. We agree to give paper and metal tokens a certain value. Within the context of a particular economy, the value of a dollar or euro is an “objective” fact, but this objectivity is contingent on shared belief and participation in economic systems. The material paper has no intrinsic value; its worth is entirely constructed and agreed upon.

However, Truth, in its purest form, shouldn’t have different meanings or interpretations. In philosophy, something that is “objectively true” would be true regardless of individual or cultural beliefs—a universal fact. However, accessing or understanding such truths is a challenging endeavor precisely because we are subjective beings.
Is harmony defined by us is really harmonious ?
The universe operates on a balance. Dualities like light and dark, joy and sorrow, and so on, are not in contention with each other but rather two sides of the same coin. They provide context and meaning. It’s akin to understanding that one cannot truly appreciate light without having known darkness. Our existence is enigmatic, where a myriad of elements interplay in a vast cosmic dance. Every action, no matter how minute, sends ripples across the fabric of the universe. Such is the interconnectedness and oneness that defines the cosmos. But amidst this vastness, we humans grapple with the age-old questions: Why are we here? Why do we feel disconnected when everything is intrinsically connected? And, why is our life, despite being a part of this vast universe, so often defined by duality?

Consider the universe as an immense symphony, where every entity is like a note, contributing to an eternal, harmonious melody. From the most massive stars to the tiniest organisms, everything is in sync, vibrating in tune with the universe. This sense of harmony is a constant, even if it’s not always immediately apparent. However, the human experience often feels at odds with this cosmic harmony. We frequently perceive life through the lens of duality: good vs. evil, happiness vs. sorrow, success vs. failure. Such bifurcations arise primarily from our mental frameworks, shaped by societal norms, personal experiences, and evolutionary predispositions.

In our evolutionary journey, the human brain developed cognitive systems to categorize, discriminate, and simplify the complex stimuli of the external world, making it digestible and navigable. This cognitive system is a survival tool, enabling us to swiftly identify threats from non-threats, edible food from inedible, and so on. Over time, as societies became more sophisticated, these dualistic mental models began to govern not just our interactions with the environment but also our self-perception, aspirations, and relationships. This dualistic approach further feeds into the illusion of separateness — a feeling that we are distinct from the rest of the universe. Despite being made of stardust and sharing common atomic ancestors with everything around us, we often feel isolated or alienated. Such feelings intensify when we face adversities, leading many to question the harmony and purpose of existence.
Our understanding of freedom is entwined with our perception of duality. True freedom is not just liberation from external constraints but also from internal ones, like prejudices, fears, and limiting beliefs. To break free from the life’s cycle, one needs to reconcile with dualities, recognizing them as constructs rather than inherent truths. As we delve deeper into the framework of existence, we find that duality isn’t inherently detrimental. Instead, it provides contrast, lending depth and dimension to our experiences. Just as the contrasting strokes of a painting give it life and depth, the dualities of our lives add vibrancy and richness to our existence. Without dark, there would be no understanding of light; without sorrow, the true essence of joy would remain unknown.

Much of our attachment to duality stems from societal and cultural conditioning. From childhood, we’re taught to label and categorize experiences: winning is good, losing is bad; happiness is desirable, sadness is not. Over time, these labels solidify into beliefs, shaping our perceptions and reactions. For instance, consider the universally accepted notion of success. Societal metrics of success often revolve around material wealth, social status, and professional achievements. However, if we were to strip away these conditioned beliefs and look at life through an unfiltered lens, we might find that true success lies in inner contentment, meaningful relationships, and personal growth.
Our fixation on the ephemeral aspects of life — fleeting emotions, transient experiences, and temporal possessions — further entrenches us in the duality trap. In the rush of life, we often overlook the eternal — the unchanging, omnipresent essence that underlies all existence. This essence, often referred to in spiritual contexts as the ‘Self’ or ‘Consciousness,’ remains unaffected by the dualities that play out on the surface.
By connecting with this eternal aspect of ourselves, we begin to view dualities with a sense of detachment. They appear as passing clouds against the vast sky of our existence, impactful in the moment but not defining our eternal essence. Aligning with the duality doesn’t mean becoming passive or indifferent. It means engaging with life wholeheartedly, experiencing every emotion, every high and low, but without letting them dictate our inner state. With heightened awareness, we can navigate the complexities of life with grace, recognizing the transient nature of our experiences.
This awareness doesn’t diminish our experiences but rather enriches them. When we embrace both the joys and sorrows of life with equanimity, we live more fully, more authentically. We begin to see challenges as opportunities for growth, failures as lessons, and successes as moments of gratitude.
Our perception of disharmony is influenced by our thoughts, emotions, and our attachments to outcomes. When we find ourselves in situations we didn’t desire or anticipate, our immediate response is resistance. This resistance, this non-acceptance, creates friction – a perceived disharmony.

The journey to non-duality is a continuous process of introspection, reflection, and growth. Various spiritual traditions offer paths to transcend duality: the Yogic tradition advocates for meditation and self-inquiry, Buddhism emphasizes mindfulness and compassion, while Taoism teaches the art of flowing with life, embracing both its yin and yang.
The common thread across these traditions is the idea of returning to one’s true nature — a state of pure consciousness, free from the constraints of duality.
Faith – reality in unseen ?
The concept of faith is one of the most profound yet elusive aspects of human life. Rooted in the intangible and often transcending the bounds of logical reasoning, faith is a powerful force that shapes our worldviews, influences our actions, and gives meaning to our existence. In its most fundamental form, faith is a complete trust or confidence in something or someone. However, the nature and implications of faith are much more nuanced and multifaceted.
Faith operates in various dimensions of our lives, not just in religious or spiritual contexts. We exhibit faith when we trust our loved ones, when we believe in the promise of a better future, when we have confidence in our abilities despite past failures, and even when we participate in social or economic systems. Faith, therefore, is deeply ingrained in our daily lives, influencing our decisions and perceptions, often without us consciously realizing it.

When it comes to faith in things unseen or events yet to happen, the dynamics become even more complex. This kind of faith typically involves a degree of uncertainty and mystery. It requires a leap beyond the confines of empirical evidence and tangible proof. But why do we, as rational beings, place faith in the unseen or the unknown?
Part of the answer lies in our inherent desire for meaning, purpose, and connection. As conscious beings, we yearn to understand the world around us, to make sense of our experiences, and to feel connected to something greater than ourselves. This quest for understanding and connection often leads us into the realm of the unseen, the unproven, the mysterious. It’s in this realm that faith becomes an essential tool.
Moreover, our experiences shape our faith. Experiences of love, compassion, resilience, and transformation can reinforce our faith in positive values, in humanity, or in a higher power. On the other hand, experiences of pain, loss, or injustice might challenge or even shatter our faith. Nevertheless, it’s often in the midst of adversity that faith evolves and deepens, as we grapple with questions of meaning, purpose, and hope.

The role of faith in our lives can be multifarious. For some, faith in a divine entity brings comfort and guidance. It instills hope during trials and tribulations, fosters a sense of community and belonging, and provides a moral framework for life. For others, faith in human potential and progress fuels the pursuit of knowledge, justice, and innovation.
Does faith have anything to do with what has happened and what’s going to happen? Indeed, faith is often interwoven with our perceptions of the past, present, and future. Past experiences can shape our faith, as we learn from our triumphs and failures, joys and sorrows. Our faith, in turn, influences how we navigate the present and envision the future. It can give us the courage to face challenges, the patience to endure hardships, and the inspiration to dream and create.
At the same time, faith is not about predicting the future with certainty. Rather, it’s about embracing uncertainty with hope and resilience. It’s about daring to dream, to strive, and to love, even when the outcomes are unknown. It’s about trusting in the potential for growth, transformation, and transcendence, regardless of our current circumstances or past experiences.
Is faith real? The reality of faith might not be tangible or measurable, but its impact on human life is undeniable. Across cultures and throughout history, faith has inspired art and literature, fueled social movements, shaped civilizations, and transformed individual lives. Its reality is manifested in the courage of those who dare to dream and create, in the resilience of those who endure suffering with hope, and in the love and compassion that transcend boundaries of race, religion, and ideology.
It’s worth noting, however, that faith is not about passive acceptance or blind allegiance. True faith involves questioning, seeking, and growing. It’s a dynamic, evolving journey rather than a fixed destination. It requires humility to acknowledge the unknown, courage to question and explore, and wisdom to discern truth from illusion. While the nature of faith is complex and elusive, its essence can be encapsulated in the timeless words of Martin Luther King Jr.: “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

To deepen our exploration of faith, let’s consider it from various perspectives: philosophical, psychological, sociological, and spiritual.
From a philosophical perspective, faith brings up interesting questions about knowledge and belief. Philosophers have long pondered how we can justify our beliefs or knowledge claims, particularly when they concern the unseen or the unproven. Can faith be considered a form of knowledge? Does it require justification or evidence? Different philosophical traditions offer diverse answers. For instance, the school of pragmatism posits that beliefs (and by extension, faith) can be justified if they yield positive outcomes or experiences.
From a psychological perspective, faith can be viewed as a cognitive and emotional mechanism that helps us navigate uncertainty and complexity. For instance, when we face a difficult decision or an unpredictable situation, faith can provide a sense of direction and confidence. Psychological research has shown that faith (both religious and secular) can contribute to mental well-being, resilience, and prosocial behavior. For instance, faith in one’s abilities (also known as self-efficacy) is a key factor in motivation and achievement.
From a sociological perspective, faith plays a crucial role in social cohesion and collective action. Shared beliefs and values can foster a sense of community and cooperation, enabling societies to function and evolve. For example, faith in democratic values underpins democratic institutions and practices. Moreover, faith can inspire social change. The civil rights movement in the United States, led by figures like Martin Luther King Jr., is a powerful example of faith-driven social activism.
From a spiritual perspective, faith is often associated with the relationship between the human soul and the divine or the transcendent. Faith can manifest as trust in divine providence, commitment to spiritual practices, or aspiration for spiritual growth. For instance, in the Bhagavad Gita, a sacred text of Hinduism, Lord Krishna advises Arjuna to perform his duty with faith and without attachment to the results – a principle known as Karma Yoga.
Let’s consider a few examples that illuminate the multifaceted nature of faith. Imagine a student who is preparing for a challenging exam. Her faith in her abilities motivates her to study diligently. She also has faith in the fairness of the educational system and the value of her chosen field of study. This faith sustains her through the stress and uncertainty of the exam period.
Consider also the example of a social activist. He has faith in the possibility of a more just and sustainable world. This faith fuels his advocacy and activism, despite the challenges and setbacks he might face. He also has faith in the power of collective action and the potential for social change.
Finally, contemplate the faith of a spiritual seeker. She has faith in a higher power and a deeper reality beyond the material world. This faith guides her spiritual practices and informs her life choices. Even in the face of doubt or despair, her faith provides a source of strength and solace.
Let’s consider some more aspects of faith: faith as an act of surrender, faith and reason, faith and doubt, and faith as a dynamic process.
- Faith as an Act of Surrender: In many spiritual traditions, faith is often depicted as a surrender, a relinquishing of the illusion of control. When we face life’s uncertainties, we often try to manipulate outcomes according to our desires. However, faith involves trusting the flow of life, even when it does not conform to our expectations. It’s like floating on the surface of a vast ocean, trusting in its currents to guide us, rather than struggling against them. This concept of surrender is not about inaction or defeat, but about embracing life’s unpredictability and recognizing our limited perspective.
- Faith and Reason: Faith and reason are often viewed as conflicting forces, particularly in the discourse between science and religion. However, they can also be seen as complementary aspects of our human quest for understanding. Reason involves the critical examination of evidence and the logical analysis of ideas. It is indispensable in our pursuit of empirical knowledge and practical wisdom. Faith, on the other hand, steps in where reason reaches its limits. It enables us to navigate the mysteries of existence, to live with uncertainty, and to aspire for ideals that transcend empirical evidence.
- Faith and Doubt: Doubt is often seen as the antithesis of faith, but it can also be an integral part of the journey of faith. Doubt prompts us to question our beliefs, to seek deeper understanding, and to remain open to new insights. A faith that has never been challenged by doubt may be unexamined or dogmatic. As philosopher Paul Tillich put it, “Doubt is not the opposite of faith; it is one element of faith.”
- Faith as a Dynamic Process: Faith is not a static state but a dynamic process. It evolves as we encounter new experiences, insights, and challenges. Faith is not about clinging to fixed beliefs, but about cultivating a receptive and resilient spirit. It involves not only trusting in something beyond ourselves but also believing in our capacity to learn, grow, and adapt.
To illustrate these aspects, let’s revisit our previous examples. The student preparing for an exam may experience moments of self-doubt and anxiety. However, she can choose to see these challenges as opportunities for growth rather than threats to her faith in her abilities. By acknowledging her doubts, she can deepen her understanding of herself and her aspirations. By surrendering to the process, she can relieve her anxiety and focus on her effort rather than the outcome.
The social activist might face skepticism or opposition, testing his faith in his cause. But rather than deterring him, these challenges can strengthen his commitment and clarify his vision. His faith is not a blind belief but a conscious choice, informed by his understanding of social issues and his conviction in the power of change.
The spiritual seeker may grapple with profound questions about the divine and the nature of existence. Her faith does not prevent her from questioning or exploring different perspectives. Instead, it serves as a compass in her spiritual quest, guiding her through the vast and often confusing landscape of spiritual wisdom.
These examples underscore the richness and complexity of faith. Rather than a monolithic entity, faith is a kaleidoscope of perspectives, experiences, and choices. It is a multifaceted gem, whose beauty and depth are revealed in the light of our personal and collective journeys.






